This thing called commitment

On the one hand, we hear of people agonising over commitment, wanting to seal a relationship, wanting to make things official, blahblahblah.  On the other hand, we have the guys.  You know what they say: men are from mars and women are from venus.  Commitment is what causes much anguish.

Yet there're many women involved in fulfilling and committed relationships everywhere and are blissfully happy.  We can see it around us if we care to look.  How did they manage to get their partners to stay around them?  I can't say anything for other ladies, since we're all different.

I'll just tell you what worked for me and got The Boy to commit to a relationship.

Here's the secret:

I did................

NOTHING.

It sounds ludicrous, right?  But it's true!  It's counter-intuitive, right?  If we want a glass of water, don't we get up and pour ourselves a glass?  If we're hungry, don't we grab something to eat or cook?  So why do we do nothing in such circumstances?  Well, because it's the best thing to do!

A relationship isn't just about us; it's about our partners as well.  We need to look at not only what we want, but what they want.  We need to not only focus on our timing, but theirs too.  We might be ready but they may not be.  And men, being from mars, are the ones who should make it happen, not us women.  Remember we're from venus?

Guys are a mystery, at least to this gal as well.  We'll never fully understand the way they function, but that's ok, because we're not supposed to.  Similarly, as women, we probably frustrate them quite often :P  So the best thing to do is....... follow their timing and let them take the lead.

If I'd pushed The Boy for a committed relationship too early when we were dating, he'd probably run in the other direction even if he did like me.  Talk about smother!  We wouldn't like it if somebody pushes us too hard, would we?  That's what I mean!  So why not just give them some space and let them act on their decision?

So I did nothing and simply enjoyed our dates.  If he thought it was nice enough to be with me, he would wanna be with me.  It's that simple.  And because The Boy isn't some wimpy faggot, he did decide to commit to a relationship and acted on his decision.  So fast forward to April 2015 and it's been a year.  How time flies, hey? : )

Where this will all lead, I dunno.  Regardless, this year, there're certain aspects of life I would like to work on.  Thoughts, behaviours, a part of me has unconsciously changed and I don't like it.  Whilst I won't share the details, suffice to say it's time to do something about it.

If it works out, great!  If not, then at the very least, the relationship won't end with me being a worse person than when I entered it.

Signing Off,

Missy Adorabelle