Japanese curries and feminism

Oh my, I ADORE Japanese curries!!!

Chicken karaage and omu rice curry

Creamy chicken and omu rice curry

There's a Japanese restaurant at the ground level of Bugis+.  I've forgotten the restaurant name, but you can't miss it if you browse through the menu : )  They specialise in Japanese curry omu rice combos.  You can even customise the ingredients to make your very own special meal!

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Some Hollywood celebrities have embraced feminism.  We started to see this when women consistently got portrayed as a kick-ass babe.  Charlie's Angels.  Kill Bill.  Underworld.  Just to name a few.  There're more starring Jessica Biel and Jessica Alba too.  Then there are the talkshows where celebrities called for more women to be represented - as directors and what not.

Calling for equal rights.  For an end to discrimination and sexism.  You know what?  These women should just keep quiet.  It's hard to tell whether or not there's vested interest and whether they're just saying those things to appeal to the public or to secure their futures when they're too old to be on our silver screens.

Feminism started on the right note - to give women the right to vote.  It took women outta their traditional roles in the home to the workforce.  This contributed to more food on the table and more spending money for families.  This is good.  Women also became more educated and earned more.  This is good.

THEN.  It got taken to the extreme and, as we all know, when things are taken to the extreme, it doesn't end well at all.

Women started climbing the corporate ladder.  Whilst this isn't necessarily a bad thing, they started emasculating men.  They started taunting them, demanding equal rights but not wanting to actually respect men's rights as well.  Part of this is via tying up with FAM to force fat is beautiful and equality for all down everyone's throats.

Men, of course, are not pleased by this.  However, when they dare to voice disagreement, they're quickly shot down by those they label 'feminazis'.  These women are downright scarily aggressive.  They mud-sling, name-call, swear and insult men's privates without a hint of shame.

There's nothing ladylike left in these women and, unfortunately, this extreme movement has gained quite a large following.  It's quite akin to a cult where they attempt to brainwash everyone to follow their agenda.  It's sick, it's wrong and I can understand why their men are fleeing for better shores.

I wouldn't wanna live in such a society either *shudder*

Signing Off,

Missy Adorabelle

TopShop shoes

I have a solemn promise to make.

I promise to focus solely on shoes and not be distracted by apparel and accessories.

I promise to stay on track and only look at shoes, although it's very difficult since it IS TopShop after all.

www.topshop.com

Side note: did you know that if you spend over S$120/- now, you'll receive free shipping?!?!?!?!?!?!?!  I wanna look at clothes lah OMG!

I'm lurrrvin' the snake skin embossed heels!

Actually...

I should be looking in Vince Camuto and Nine West, right? : /  What a waste of time searching for shoes in TopShop when it specialises in clothes!  Oh well, guess I'll just let myself be distracted and take a look at other stuff first in order to neutralise the frustration at my own stupidity :P

Hey, at least I stayed focused! :P  So something good came outta this :P

Signing Off,

Missy Adorabelle

Le Orient

After reading about the deterioration of western societies, I appreciate all the more our asian virtues.  At the very least, many women in Asia retain some modesty.  With a few exceptions, we don't happily reveal what should be kept private for our partners' eyes.

The situation has gotten so bad in western societies that some Americans advocate public shaming in order to restore decency and moral values in their citizens.  Whilst that may seem extreme, desperate measures need to be taken in desperate situations.  Given their current circumstances, perhaps public shaming could be the very thing that stops the downward spiral into a very dark abyss.

The Boy and I had a chat about this.  He said fat acceptance wouldn't be successful here.  As for the slut walk, hmm, well, there will always be women willing to forego their dignity for attention.  To some, good or bad attention is all good attention, especially from men.

I shudder to think what Singapore would be like if we had crazy hustlers marching in protest at rape like the pictures below.







GROSS, right?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

That's why I'm glad to live here.  Singaporeans are still relatively SANE, at least for now.  It's hard to say where we'll be a few decades down the road.  Globalisation means we're sent subliminal messages through various forms of media and, if we're not careful, our future generations may end up lacking any shame.

As long as we retain our modesty and other asian virtues, the probability of men using our women for a quick yuckyyuckyyuck then dumping them instead of viewing them as respectable relationship material is far lower.  There will always be jerks, but karma will also step in ultimately.

I'm proud of our oriental roots and the depravation of western societies only makes me appreciate our values and customs more.  Perhaps this is the direction I can focus on and work on for the time being.  It makes our lives even more meaningful somehow, when there's something to work towards : )

Signing Off,

Missy Adorabelle

Hide Yamamoto

Ler was feeling demoralised.  He opted to join a new team during the restructuring (which I escaped from :P) and, whilst he doesn't fully regret his decision as it affords him opportunities to learn, he hasn't exactly been given the best support either.

So, being the nice people we are, we took him out for his favourite cuisine - Japanese!!!

We headed to Hide Yamamoto for refined, delicious and expensive yumdoms :P  Ler is crazy about good sashimi, so he was eager to try the selection as this restaurant which is very popular amongst the Japanese : )

3 types of appetisers, from left to right, grilled bonito, ginger glass noodles and delicately steamed chilled veggies with bonito flakes.  1 of the pluses of eating Japanese is, the portions are tiny, which allows customers to sample a wide variety of dishes without feeling completely stuffed!

Ler and Cat went wild about this one.  2 slices of salmon belly, 2 slices of hamachi and 2 slices of heavenly otoro!!!  Ler commented later that the sashimi alone made the hefty price tag worthwhile : )

More sashimi!  Kaisen don!

We ended the meal with an orange ice cream served in a shot glass.  So cute, right? : )

Afterwards, Ler thanked me for organising the lunch.  It made him feel a lot better.  Hopefully things improve for him soon.  Poor dude.

Signing Off,

Missy Adorabelle

Woolloomoolloo with Chris

Caught up with Chris for some champagne and good food.  He introduced me to Woolloomoolloo, a restaurant tucked away in a small corner at Raffles City : )  It serves yummy Australian cuisine and is quite a popular place (with Chris, that is :P  He takes his dates here :P).

Thankfully, the waitress is better at taking photos than the Beanstro waiter :P

I was in a mauve dress from www.shoplabellavita.com : )  The clothes there fit me well, especially those for sizes UK8 to UK10.  Fabrics are usually quite good and prices are very reasonable.  I love the styles there too! : )  Ok, back to the restaurant.  This is what I had.

Carrot and ginger soup

DIVINE.

Rainbow trout rolled with eggplant and zucchini and Lyonnaise potatoes

DIVINE.

Berry vol-au-vents with vanilla ice cream and cookie crumbs

DIVINE DIVINE DIVINE!!!

All washed down with a glass of delicious champagne! :D  The restaurant is worth a visit.  I highly recommend it!

Signing Off,

Missy Adorabelle

Piperlime

I need shoes.

Must not be distracted by clothes.

Don'cha just hate it when you need to update a specific item in your wardrobe and you end up buying everything else BUT that item?  Yeah, it keeps happening to me.  As my chauvinist dad and partner (both will really kill me if they ever read this :P) always say, "Sigh, WOMEN!" :P

So irritating, right? :P

Anyhoo, I confess this with some shame because I've failed at being a woman.  So now you can go ahead and laugh at me because, whilst I was updating my wardrobe, I completely neglected my shoes and................................. I didn't have any beige casual shoes and absolutely NO black shoes at all.

However did this happen?!

How could I have reached this deplorable, sorry state?!

I'm no longer a woman *sob*

Ok, that's it for the self pity.  Now to restore my sense of identity :P  Enter Piperlime, a haven for shoe addicts and fashionistas.  Am crazily in lurrrve right now :P

www.piperlime.com

Heels are my footwear of choice.  Yes, I'll gladly sacrifice comfort for vanity.  Flats are great for times where I'm required to do a lot of walking, such as weekend getaways during the day.  But at night, it still has to be heels.  I feel weird without them :P

They don't need to be sky-high...  I'd rather be able to walk properly in them than teeter about in sky-high stilettos because I can't balance well in them.  Nothing is more unglamourous than toppling over and exposing more than you intended.  Argh :P  So yeah, am sticking to nothing more than 3.5 inches unless there's a hidden platform.

Signing Off,

Missy Adorabelle

Marcus buys me lunch too!

Marcus invited me to catch up as well : )  It's always a pleasure to dine with him and get the goss about his life.  Hearing about his daughter, a true lil' young lady now, his wife, family and thoughts, is a welcome break from the office : )  We had a great meal at Beanstro, Marina Bay Sands : )

You'd think that, by now, everyone is used to smartphones.  Well, the waiter there isn't :P  He was clearly struggling and kept pressing some other icon, then handing the phone back to me because he didn't know how to press the camera icon.  Finally, he managed to take this ONE pic, but it was a tad fuzzy.

Never mind :P  As long as we look presentable :P

How can anyone not love breakfast food?!?!?!  Eggs benedict with ham, but instead of toast, I requested for cheese.  Served with a side of salad : )  Yummeh and filling too! : )  We had a chat about plans, work and what has been happening in our lives.  Then, the sweetie paid and we entered Victoria's Secret.

Erm :P  Let's just say it's kinda awkward when you wanna buy something and there's somebody with you ahahahahahahaha :P  So in the end, empty-handed lorr :P  Still, it was pleasant enough.  Looking forward to more of these tasty treats!

Signing Off,

Missy Adorabelle

Modesty?

Whilst I'm all for women being confident in their own bodies, the flood of Instagram photos of women posing in various states of undress is appalling.  There's a difference between sexy and tasteful and downright slutty.  Going by the photos, I'm not sure these parties know the difference.

Sources are these women's own Instagram accounts.

Yes, it's good that everyone embraces their size and shape.  Yes, it's good that people stop cruel taunts against fat people.  Yes, it's wonderful that people no longer loathe themselves and, instead, embrace life fully.  I'm all for that.  But is all this exhibitionism necessary? : /

If they're prepared to upload photos of their bits that normal, decent people keep under wraps and only expose to loved ones, why are they complaining about rude comments?  Sure, they can yell that people don't need to look, but hey, it's like, UP THERE IN PUBLIC, hello?  And it's too late for viewers to UNsee everything!

If these women really feel good about their bodies, they wouldn't need to photograph themselves in various states of undress in order to support body/size/fat acceptance.  They could also have posted photos of themselves in the tasteful dresses that retailers now stock to cater to different body types.

I dunno what they're trying to achieve here, but it's in really poor taste.  Whatever happened to modesty and a sense of shame?  It's no wonder these women, who happily expose themselves, regardless of their shape or size, are sexually used by men but don't find the love they want.

Yes, everyone fully understands that these women want themselves represented in the consumer world.  They wanna be embraced as customers and have their sizes catered to.  Fair enough.  Just voice it instead of attention-seeking, exhibitionist behaviour.  It's just as annoying as thin exhibitionist, attention-whores.

Yes, you're beautiful.  All of you are.  But what would make you even more beautiful is to have some modicum of modesty.  We can all be sexy covered up and leaving a little bit more to the imagination.  If you let it all hang out in the cyber-world for all to see, what is there left for the special person in your life?

Do you think men wouldn't wanna feel special, to be able to have access to your body the way other men can't?

Think about it.

Signing Off,

Missy Adorabelle

Guinness lamb and mushroom stew and thin privilege

Here's another dish I made for a beer session.

It's Guinness lamb and mushroom stew!  Those things that look like fries are actually toasted bread sticks that my companion that night made.  So yeah, the whole thing was wiped clean as well!  Surprise, surprise, it wasn't that difficult at all!  Much easier than having to wage World War III on my cumbersome vacuum cleaner :P

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Weight, body size and body shape, are sensitive topics.  After reading quite a number of them, I came away with a better understanding of the perspectives from both sides of the fence.  And then I came across this new term/concept/which to me is a whole lotta baloney:

People in this part of the world have not heard of thin/slim privilege.  In fact, if it does exist, as the Fat Acceptance Movement ('FAM') now tries to drum so darned hard into everyone's brains, they wouldn't even need to brainwash anyone into acknowledging that it does.

'Thin privilege' is a term coined to illustrate the privileges that people who fall within an acceptable weight range enjoy which the overweight do not and, thus, feel entitled to scream they're discriminated against.

An example:  Why should they pay the price of 2 seats when the airline seats were too small to fit them in the first place?

Another example:  Why must they pay more for their plus-size clothing?

The answer to the above questions are, 1.  Because you take up 2 seats when you really shouldn't and yet you're demanding that airlines accommodate you by making their seats bigger; and 2.  You use up far more fabric, thread and man-hours.

The insinuation is, people who're of an acceptable weight are given 'privileges' which they did not earn.  Hmm.  Well, let's see now.  In what way did they not earn these so-called 'privileges' when we make an effort to maintain our weight, when we make an effort not to stuff our mouths, when we make an effort to look the best we can?

Besides, the FAM wants everyone to be viewed as equal and body love for all.  So why create a 'class difference' by coining the term, 'thin privilege'?  Wouldn't they have thought it is counter-productive to their aims?  People like to feel good and privileges make one feel good.  Heck, even feel better than others.

So what the FAM is really doing is harming its own 'cause'.  Instead of paving the path for body equality, they're creating the class differences all by themselves.  They're calling people sexist, ageist, sizist, and whatever -ist they can think of, just so they can wallow in self-pity and perceived victimisation.

If the real motive behind the movement is really to achieve body acceptance for all, then it should remain focused on its aim.  Aggression, trying to brainwash people and censoring differing/alternative opinions, will only distract them from their cause.

Instead, what we have here is the Animal Farm mentality.  4 legs good, 2 legs bad.  4 legs good, 2 legs bad.  4 legs good, 2 legs bad.  Repeat chant 10,000,000,000 times or until you're sufficiently brainwashed.  Now let's take a look at the mantra FAM adopts.

Fat is normal, slim is ugly.  Fat is normal, slim is ugly.  Fat is normal, slim is ugly.

Try their damnedest to make you repeat 10,000,000,000 times and employ manipulative tactics such as trying to shame and bully you, hurling profanities at you and insulting you or accuse you of bullying and shaming instead, when you dare to refuse to repeat it.  Hey, it happens a lot!!!

Heck, they even wanted themselves represented in terms of Barbie dolls.  Hello, perfect, gorgeous, Barbie?!  Now in so-called 'real woman' proportions?  Check this out!

Then they started to scream that Big Beautiful Barbie isn't representative of 'real women' today *roll eyes roll eyes roll eyes*  Do they resemble a buncha hypersensitive, childish and over-demanding lunatic banshees to you?  They certainly do to me!  How do you even respect them?

Where do we even start?!

In fact, I would venture to say that they're using reverse psychology to shame and bully everyone, including large corporations, into accommodating them and catering to their whims and desires.  Abercrombie & Fitch landed in hot water because the CEO refused to make their clothes in plus sizes.  Go Google it!

So let me tell you this.  In this part of the world, we don't have thin privilege.  We don't have the FAM screaming that fat women are beautiful yadda yadda yadda.  At least not yet.  Thank goodness for that.  I hope it never sets foot on our shores.

Signing Off,

Missy Adorabelle

Fat People Dancing

I'm not bothering with political correctness.  Fat is fat, not curvy, not voluptuous, not thick, etc.  I will not sugar-coat fat, but I will support women not loathing themselves, not feeling suicidal about their weight and embracing the positive side of life.  Now this group of fat people have decided to do something useful with their lives.

Instead of sitting for hours at their laptops, they're out and about practising dance moves.  This is definitely healthier than lying on the couch and stuffing their faces with cans of potato chips.  This is also definitely more productive than warring with people who have differing views in the cyber-world.

Not crazy about the bra and panties costume, but I'll give it to them, since cabaret dancers are usually skimpily clad.  Also, at this juncture, it may be difficult for them to find acceptable sexy and glamourous costumes.  The most important thing is that they're doing something good for themselves instead of hammering men who prefer slim/healthy-weight women or bashing the slim.

This is what the body/size/fat acceptance movement should be about - to stop the self-loathing and engage in hobbies.  Moving about is also better for fat people.  There are guys out there who like fat women just as there will always be men who favour the slim/healthy-weight ones.  When one accepts oneself, one doesn't seek to change another's view.

As long as people respect this, the cyber-world would be less filled with aggression and hateful vitriol.  I don't endorse obesity and being overweight.  But I do think that less cruelty towards them is never a bad thing.  These fat people who're dancing?  I applaud their acceptance of themselves and their decision to dance and move about.

Signing Off,

Missy Adorabelle